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I don’t have kids but [this book] is a
fascinating read on the emotional baggage we all carry ― Elizabeth Day, How to Fail podcastThe Easter holidays were
a complete joy because of your book – I feel about a trillion times more relaxed and connected as a parent and I have also found it very helpful for my sobriety and recovery ― Bryony GordonEVERY parent should read this book, however old their child. In fact, any adult in a relationship should read it too. Distilled in less than 250 pages is
a road map to healthy relationships. Required reading ― ExpressNot got kids? It doesn’t matter, as the
wonderful psychotherapist Philippa Perry’s latest book is actually about using our pasts to understand ourselves (…) it’s also an excellent book for reminding yourself: life is hard and you’re doing your best – so try not to beat yourself up for everyday mistakes ― StylistSo clear and true … can’t stop recommending it to people …
helpful for all relationships in life, not just parent-child ― Nigella LawsonNot got kids? It doesn’t matter, as the wonderful psychotherapist Philippa Perry’s latest book is actually about using our pasts to understand ourselves and how we react to situations that test our patience and emotions. She explains that these sharp reactions might well be down to what happened in our childhoods – and the flashpoints that these emotions can stir up makes for
fascinating reading whether you’re actively parenting or not. It’s also an excellent book for reminding yourself: life is hard and you’re doing your best – so try not to beat yourself up for everyday mistakes ― StylistIf you’re determinedly not a self-help kind of reader (like me), make an exception for [this book]. And
if you’re not a parent, don’t dismiss it. The message is one of non-judgemental kindness. The sophisticated psychoanalytical version of my “count to ten and then say something kind” advice to my kids (and myself) when things start to fall apart ― VogueAs a mother of a three year old, I have an aversion to the endless saccharine social-media posts about parenting. Perry’s book is the antithesis of all that –
practical and logical ― EllePhilippa Perry goes through each stage of parenthood, from pregnancy to the teen years, suggesting emotional techniques that
will help you to have a strong and healthy relationship with your babies and yourself ― Mother & Baby It gave me hope as a new parent that whatever learnt behaviour you’ve got from your mum and dad (…) you can learn from that but it doesn’t have to stay with you ― Babita Sharma, BBC NewsIn fact, I’d say Philippa Perry is one of the wisest, most sane and secure people I’ve ever met ―
Decca Aitkenhead, Sunday Time Magazineshe writes with an inquisitive elegance rarely found in parenting guides (…) the book is still firm with parents but also forgiving (…) it is forgiving and persuasive – God, it’s persuasive. I’ve yet to meet a parent who hasn’t altered their parenting to some degree after reading it, myself included
― Hadley Freeman, the Guardian
I’m going to be honest Philippa, this has genuinely had such a positive impact on my life and my relationship with my daughter – so thank you very much for that ― Josh Widdicombe
A wise book on parents and children ― The Times
The main message is that is that it’s best to acknowledge, rather than dismiss, children’s feelings (…) and that parenting is not about perfection ― i Newspaper
I’ve had the most wonderful feedback from this episode. People stopping me on the street to say how much they’ve love the book’s advice. Philippa’s wisdom and delivery has resonated with many parents out there. I can’t thank her enough for her time and energy ― Happy Place podcast
It is like a letter from a wise friend who happens to have done years of research (…) I am grateful for it ― Aida Edemariam, The Guardian
A wise book on parents and children ― Saturday Times
The main message is that is that it’s best to acknowledge, rather than dismiss, children’s feelings (…) and that parenting is not about perfection ― iWeekend
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In this
Sunday Times bestseller, leading psychotherapist Philippa Perry reveals the vital do’s and don’ts of relationships. This is a book for us all. Whether you are interested in understanding how your upbringing has shaped you, looking to handle your child’s feelings or wishing to support your partner, you will find indispensable information and realistic tips in these pages. Philippa Perry’s sane, sage and judgement-free advice is an essential resource on how to have the best possible relationships with the people who matter to you most.
Lia –
This book definitely hit the nail on the head- my parents should not have been parents.Unfortunately, due to their shoddy parenting, I have huge amounts of self-doubt, especially when it comes to my parenting, no matter how many friends, doctors and therapists tell me I’m a great parent.I found this book had me constantly overthinking and second-guessing whether I, myself, am a good parent.They say the sign of a great parent is someone who is always self-reflecting and actually spends time mentally and consistently assessing whether they are doing a good job. The bad parents don’t think about it at all, they just assume they’re awesome.Unfortunately this book just set off my anxiety and I couldnt enjoy it as I just kept applying every example to questioning my own parenting, rather than using it as validation that my parents indeed did fail dismally.However, we can all strive to do better as parents and it was a gentle reminder that despite what I am constantly told, I can still be a better parent in a lot of ways too.It would probably be a very good read for expecting parents who grew up with less-than-ideal parents, because having children really does open up old wounds you forgot you had, and would be a brilliant roadmap for how to do better than them instead of repeating old toxic behaviours you grew up with.
Laura Tattersall –
I enjoyed reading this on my babymoon. It was easy to read, to the point & had quite a few nuggets of gold that have stuck with me now that I’m on my parenting journey
EF –
This book is not just for parents; it’s for every person who HAS parents (or had parents). Honestly, it’s easy to read and digest and offers a no-shame, informative approach that had me nodding along and excitedly sharing pages with anyone who’d listen. Buy it for yourself, your spouse, your parents, your siblings…just buy it!
Kindle Customer –
I loved how helpful this book is, when trying to understand myself and othersI give 5 stars because I believe everyone should read this book.I recommend everyone read this
John Pigott –
The actual writing is engaging and, we found, useful.Our gripe is with the printing/binding quality – we wonder whether it really is a penguin printed book or a fake?